When cancer enters our life, all of a sudden all of our plans are thrown out the window. We enter this world of permanent uncertainty. We can’t even make new plans. That would mean we know how our husband would be doing in 3 weeks. We don’t even know how he’ll be doing in 3Continue reading “How To Handle An Unknown Future”
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What To Do When He’s In Pain
What They Are Going Through Cancer treatments are painful. Often more painful than the disease. Chemo and radiation are some of the most common treatments and while there are all sorts of variations, a lot of time these treatments can leave them feeling nauseous, bloated, and exhausted. They lose their hair, even their eyebrows! QuiteContinue reading “What To Do When He’s In Pain”
Feeling Powerless
As a caregiver of someone with cancer, there are so many times we feel powerless. Sometimes it’s when they’re in pain from a recent treatment and there is nothing we can do to make it better. Sometimes it’s seeing the fear and anxiety on their face after hearing the results of a test or aContinue reading “Feeling Powerless”
Resentment
When your spouse has cancer it seems like life starts to revolve all around them. Conversations become about treatment and doctors appointments, new research and trials. Daily life is centered around how they are feeling that day, what they need help with or can’t do. The future becomes about them too. It becomes limited byContinue reading “Resentment”
Regret
I should have… If only I had done that instead… I wish I would have… These are the words of regret. What Is Regret? Regret is defined as: A feeling of sadness, loss, or disappointment over something that has happened or been done, especially a lost or missed opportunity. Regret is a feeling we haveContinue reading “Regret”
Confusion
How To Cope When Feeling Confused By Different Treatment Options In our modern world, we are constantly confronted with choices. What cereal to buy, where to bank, what program to send our kids to, what health care plan to choose, what type of phone and plan to pay for, what TV show to watch… NearlyContinue reading “Confusion”
Overwhelm
You walk in the door after grocery shopping and diligently wash your hands. You face a pile of dishes on the counter, the house needs to be picked up, there are bills to be paid and the trash needs to be taken out. Oh, and your husband has several more medications he needs to takeContinue reading “Overwhelm”
Asking Good Questions
We all have those days when we are frustrated or angry. It seems like everything is going wrong and the world has conspired against us. The worse our day gets, the more we can’t get out of it. In our heads, we have thoughts like: Why does this always happen to me? Why am IContinue reading “Asking Good Questions”
YOU, And The Perfect You
The Perfect You We all have this idea about the perfect version of ourselves. The person we think we should be. It probably includes things like: I should always be polite. I should always be caring to those I love. I should never lose my temper. I should not feel sorry for myself. I shouldContinue reading “YOU, And The Perfect You”
I’m Afraid I Won’t Know What To Do!
Dealing With A Crisis When Your Spouse Has Cancer It’s Up To You You are your spouse’s primary caregiver. You are not a doctor. Yet, you probably feel like you are charged with his well being. If something goes wrong, it will be up to you to handle it. If he has had cancer forContinue reading “I’m Afraid I Won’t Know What To Do!”