Caregiver Resilience: What It Is, Why You Need It, and How to Build It

When caring for your partner, building resilience–the ability to continue forward in the face of adversity–is essential. Caregiver resilience is not just about surviving; it’s about finding strength in vulnerability, joy in the midst of sorrow, and courage in the face of adversity.  When my husband passed away from cancer, I attended a grief recoveryContinue reading “Caregiver Resilience: What It Is, Why You Need It, and How to Build It”

6 Ways to Build Your Caregiver Support System When You Are Caring for Your Partner

The first year my husband was diagnosed with a cancerous tumor in his arm, we both just wanted to get through it and move on. I was fortunate to have a supportive workplace and family and friends who all helped, but we tried not to rely on them. However, when his cancer recurred a fewContinue reading “6 Ways to Build Your Caregiver Support System When You Are Caring for Your Partner”

What Other People Say

What other people say and do is about them. The way I see it and respond to it is about me. This is one of my favorite sayings. I’m not sure exactly who said it and it may be heavily paraphrased, but the meaning is clear.  Other people’s opinions are just that – their opinions. TheyContinue reading “What Other People Say”

This is my life?

How did my life end up like this?  This was not how it was supposed to go.  This should not have happened! Home Town Burned Down Recently my home town burned down. Quite literally. The Camp Fire destroyed my parents home, my sister’s home and countless other homes of friends and family members. A townContinue reading “This is my life?”

Cancer Is Neutral

Last week I talked about a concept we call The Model which shows the inter-relationship between what happens in our life which we call a circumstance and our thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. circumstance – leads to thought > causes a feeling > drives an action = creates a result What Exactly Is A Circumstance?Continue reading “Cancer Is Neutral”

When Partner Becomes Patient

What Is A Marriage? When we get married we have ideas about how our married life will be. It may include romance, friendship, and partnership. We expect to share decisions, divide up chores, raise kids together, go on family trips, and take care of one another when we are sick. After several years of marriage,Continue reading “When Partner Becomes Patient”

What’s Your Story?

What is your life exactly? At this very moment while you are reading this, your life is simply made up of facts and your thoughts about them. Think of the facts as the type of data you would enter on a registration form.  Your age, marital status, place of employment, number of kids, income, etc. Continue reading “What’s Your Story?”

Cancer as a Circumstance

What exactly is a circumstance?  Here is the definition I found on Google: circumstance: a fact or condition connected with or relevant to an event or action Is your husband’s cancer a circumstance?  Look at the definition above and really think about it. I’m guessing that a variation of one of these thoughts came up: OfContinue reading “Cancer as a Circumstance”

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