Category Archives: thoughts

Sometimes we get stuck in a thought-feeling pattern that is so awful we just want to get away. However, the mere act of trying to get away keeps us trapped. We have to do the opposite, more toward the pain before we can become free.

Self-care goes out the window when a partner has cancer. We know it’s important, but we don’t do it. This post explores the real reason why it’s so difficult and challenges us to dig deeper into our relationship with ourselves.

Hoping A Crisis Isn’t Around The Corner As a caregiver, we know that a crisis could be just around the corner. It is the reality we live in when our spouse has a serious illness or health condition. While we may be painfully aware of this fact, we often aren’t prepared when it happens. WeContinue reading “The One Thought Every Caregiver Needs In A Crisis”

Relationships can become even more difficult when your spouse has cancer. This post will teach you the 4 things you need to know to improve your relationships.

The Beliefs That Don’t Serve Us Sometime during the caregiving process, we begin to have recurring thoughts. Thoughts that feel terrible. We start thinking things like: This will never end. I can’t keep doing this.  I’m so alone. It’s not fair.  I have to take care of everything. It’s too much. It happens subtly, andContinue reading “I’m So Alone…”

Our Fears Your husband has cancer. You have a scenario or two in your head that you pray to God never happens. You know the one, the worst case scenario. Maybe the doctor gives you and your husband some possible outcomes for how the treatment might go as well as what all the risks areContinue reading “The Worst Case Scenario”

We all have those days when we are frustrated or angry. It seems like everything is going wrong and the world has conspired against us. The worse our day gets, the more we can’t get out of it. In our heads, we have thoughts like: Why does this always happen to me? Why am IContinue reading “Asking Good Questions”

The Perfect You We all have this idea about the perfect version of ourselves. The person we think we should be. It probably includes things like: I should always be polite. I should always be caring to those I love. I should never lose my temper. I should not feel sorry for myself.  I shouldContinue reading “YOU, And The Perfect You”

Dealing With A Crisis When Your Spouse Has Cancer It’s Up To You You are your spouse’s primary caregiver. You are not a doctor. Yet, you probably feel like you are charged with his well being. If something goes wrong, it will be up to you to handle it. If he has had cancer forContinue reading “I’m Afraid I Won’t Know What To Do!”

Problems In Your Marriage  If you have been in your marriage for any length of time, there are areas of your relationship you probably find challenging. Even very good and solid relationships have problem areas. That is normal because we are all human with our own thoughts and opinions. Of course no two people getContinue reading “His Difficult Behavior”