When you have a partner with cancer it’s hard to see outside of yourself. But there are things you might be doing that are making your life more difficult. This post shares the 3 most common mistakes caregivers make, why they are a problem and what you can do about them.
Sometimes we are happy when his is sad. Or vice versa. It can feel very unsettling, especially when one person is fighting cancer. Self judgement and “acting” happy are not the answer. You can be honest with yourself and your partner about how you feel.
When you’re partner gets cancer it can feel like you’re are two ships at sea facing a storm together. While it’s very common for caregivers to want to abandon their own ship and help their partner steer, it ultimately not helpful for either of you.
You don’t have to stay stuck in the shadow of cancer. Learn the three steps I teach my clients on how to build their emotional resiliency and feel better even when their partner has cancer.
When cancer enters our life, all of a sudden all of our plans are thrown out the window. We enter this world of permanent uncertainty. We can’t even make new plans. That would mean we know how our husband would be doing in 3 weeks. We don’t even know how he’ll be doing in 3Continue reading “How To Handle An Unknown Future”
When your spouse has cancer it seems like life starts to revolve all around them. Conversations become about treatment and doctors appointments, new research and trials. Daily life is centered around how they are feeling that day, what they need help with or can’t do. The future becomes about them too. It becomes limited byContinue reading “Resentment”
Drowning In Your Thoughts Have you ever found your self spinning with the news from a recent doctor visit or test result? The doctor tells you your husband’s cancer has spread and you mind begins to spin… I don’t know how will we get through this! He might have to quite work… I’m so exhaustedContinue reading “What Are The Facts?”
Fear Once Served Us Fear is a very unpleasant emotion. Back in caveman times it kept us alive. Now, it just paralyzes us when we need to move forward most. When we make decisions and take actions from a place of fear, it usually feels terrible. Our actions may be frazzled or hurried, our decisionsContinue reading “All We Have To Fear Is Fear, Itself”
Life now as a cancer caregiver… Is full of doctor appointments and medications… Helping your partner cope with terrible nausea… Scans and changing treatment schedules… You’ve stopped planning family trips and don’t even think much about the holidays except to wish you could enjoy them worry free like those around you. Everything in your lifeContinue reading “Resisting Your Life”
Cancer Changes Our Relationship When we become the primary caregiver for our husband, it changes our relationship with him. What started out as a partnership with give and take become one sided. It often feels like we do all the giving and they do all the taking. It’s not their fault. They are just noContinue reading “What Relationship?”