A Brighter Future

The future only exists in our minds. So why do we often imagine the worst? When you are in the thick of it with your husband and cancer, it’s so difficult to even think about the future. The only future in your mind is just the next treatment date, the next chemo session, or theContinue reading “A Brighter Future”

Busy Is A Bad Habit

What did you do the last time you had a few moments to breath? Were you present or did you try to numb out with food, alcohol or TV? As a cancer caregiver, it is really easy to get lost in our TO DO list. There is never something that doesn’t need doing. work, taking careContinue reading “Busy Is A Bad Habit”

Waking Up To My Life

Some days do you wake up thinking how did I get here? I just watched a sweet movie where two middle aged characters strike up a friendship and connect over how they each feel they have wasted the last 15 years of their life. They had gone numb and were hiding from their life andContinue reading “Waking Up To My Life”

How To Get What You Really Want

We all want better results in our lives. We want more money, better body, better health, better job. How do we get these things? The answer to that question is often a list of actions. Want more money? Save more. Want a better body? Eat healthy and work out. Want better health? Take better careContinue reading “How To Get What You Really Want”

How To Stop Putting Things Off

How we get everything in life is by the actions we take. How do we get ourselves then to take the right actions? Is there something you’ve been putting off? paying bills calling the insurance company scheduling a doctor appointment Or maybe there are things you are doing but would like to stop. drinking aContinue reading “How To Stop Putting Things Off”


Emotions are what make us human. They give us the great experiences of life. There is nothing like the pride you feel with a job well done. Or the sadness at the suffering of a loved one. The joy of seeing your child overcome an obstacle. The anger you feel at witnessing injustice. The greatContinue reading “Feelings…”

Our Brain In A Rut

We think we have no control over how we think and feel. Something bad happens, we feel bad. Something good happens, we feel good. When your husband got cancer, I’m sure a whole host of thoughts and feelings came up. Most of those were probably negative.  This sucks. Why us? I don’t want to goContinue reading “Our Brain In A Rut”

Cancer Is Neutral

Last week I talked about a concept we call The Model which shows the inter-relationship between what happens in our life which we call a circumstance and our thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. circumstance – leads to thought > causes a feeling > drives an action = creates a result What Exactly Is A Circumstance?Continue reading “Cancer Is Neutral”

The Secret To The Universe?

We often feel we are at the effect of the world around us. But what if I told you that was not at all true…. Do you sometimes feel powerless? Like a victim? Like the world has conspired against you? Most people feel like that periodically, but when you are dealing with your loved one’sContinue reading “The Secret To The Universe?”

Family… They Are Driving Me Crazy!

You are so grateful your family is there for you and your husband while you deal with his cancer. But they are also driving you crazy! Family, God Bless ‘Em When dealing with our husband’s cancer, we often end up relying on our family more than we’ve ever needed to before. Having family to supportContinue reading “Family… They Are Driving Me Crazy!”

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